I'm so sorry for your loss. I understand your impulse to want to honor your first son, but this isn't the way to do it. Will people judge? Well, yes. Think of it this way. If you met a boy named Elvis, could you imagine that his parents never even considered Elvis Presley when choosing the name? That would be preposterous. So you can't expect people not to think that the name Adolf references Adolf Hitler. Your child will spend his life refuting rumors that he’s a neo-Nazi—or that you are.
–No Hippies Here
This true-blue name does ring a little bit boy, with its –o ending, and a little bit hippie, with its origin in the worlds of color and nature. And yet Indigo has been considered an option for girls ever since the Indigo Girls hit the music scene in the 1990s. The only celebrity baby Indigo in our database is a girl (the daughter of actor Lou Diamond Phillips, born in 2007).
I haven't been considering names starting with M because our last name starts with F and I don't want to give my poor baby initials that will cause teasing. But I'm beginning to wonder if the perfect name that both of us would love is out there in those Ms. Am I being ridiculous or should I keep M names off the list?
You're not being ridiculous, but you are being tempted by forbidden fruit. The letter M just looks special because it's not available. So don't let it distract you. Put it aside, and consider your remaining options.
Lila is a lovely choice that combines some of the sounds and syllables from both your favorite name and your husband's. It might be just the compromise that you need. You may fall in love with it yet, either before or after your little girl is born.
– In the No-Flow Zone
First of all, allow me to congratulate you on your amazing, unexpected pregnancy! Whatever one's religious beliefs, it's impossible to hear a story like yours, with this immense joy coming out of suffering and despair, and not feel grateful. Not only are you pregnant after doubting you ever could be, but you also have a chance to give your daughter the name you've cherished for years, without husbandly vetoes or uncooperative baby genders: a truly rare event!
– Need a Teflon Name
Schoolyard teasing can leave a deep mark on a child's developing sense of self. Understandably, then, future parents expend generous mental energy analyzing potential names from the vantage point of the class bully. Reasonable people don't want their kids to face ridicule and hardship for choices their parents made.
Audrey, I'm so sorry for your loss. It would be lovely—not weird—for you to use your father's name as a middle name for his grandchild. Honoring a grandparent with a namesake is a time-honored tradition and a sweet remembrance of someone you love and miss.
Would it be completely ridiculous to legally change our son's name now--but still call him Michael, since he's already used to it? Or could we add Christopher, so he becomes Michael John Christopher [surname] IV?
Namer's remorse is a common problem, as the Name Lady's archives will attest. But there's no common solution, one that works best in every situation. In your case, your feelings have persisted for a year, your husband is on record as preferring a different name, and you would be changing your son's name to one that’s been in his family for several generations. All these support a decision to make a change.
--Mom at a Crossroads
Choosing a noun name for your baby can be quite meaningful, but sometimes the meaning isn't what you intended. That goes double for a double-noun name like Hunter Greene, which turns the strength and power of "hunter" into a mere adjective describing the color green. Remember the response when baby Blue Ivy Carter was born? "There’s no such thing as blue-colored ivy!"
I'm a Name Lady, not a fortune teller: I can tell you that this name has mostly been given to boys in the past. But I can't say for sure whether that trend will continue.
A tradition can be a beautiful way to bind a family together. Or it can be a constricting tie, one that brings more conflict than comfort. The real question here isn't about whether this tradition is a cliché. It's whether this tradition helps cement a bond—or tries too hard to establish one that isn't really there.