Would it be completely ridiculous to legally change our son's name now--but still call him Michael, since he's already used to it? Or could we add Christopher, so he becomes Michael John Christopher [surname] IV?
Namer's remorse is a common problem, as the Name Lady's archives will attest. But there's no common solution, one that works best in every situation. In your case, your feelings have persisted for a year, your husband is on record as preferring a different name, and you would be changing your son's name to one that’s been in his family for several generations. All these support a decision to make a change.
--Mom at a Crossroads
Choosing a noun name for your baby can be quite meaningful, but sometimes the meaning isn't what you intended. That goes double for a double-noun name like Hunter Greene, which turns the strength and power of "hunter" into a mere adjective describing the color green. Remember the response when baby Blue Ivy Carter was born? "There’s no such thing as blue-colored ivy!"
I'm a Name Lady, not a fortune teller: I can tell you that this name has mostly been given to boys in the past. But I can't say for sure whether that trend will continue.
A tradition can be a beautiful way to bind a family together. Or it can be a constricting tie, one that brings more conflict than comfort. The real question here isn't about whether this tradition is a cliché. It's whether this tradition helps cement a bond—or tries too hard to establish one that isn't really there.
I can picture you now, a little girl reading about the marvels of the pyramids, the incredible beauty of the hieroglyphics, the wonders of King Tut’s tomb, and the gods and goddesses and legendary kings and queens that inspired Egyptian culture. It probably seemed so fascinatingly beautiful, so far-off and thrilling. The name Isis—which refers to the ancient Egyptian goddess of marriage, motherhood, and fertility—represents all of that to you: the beauty, the enchantment, the wonder of a dream come true.
- Nameless for Now
You are in a tough spot, aren't you? You say you've compromised, but what you've really done is put off your decision—and you've rescheduled it for a time when you'll be under more pressure to make a choice, and have far less energy to think rationally. The time to solve this quandary is now.
- Worried About Weird
Atlas may seem like a big name for a little baby. In Greek mythology, Atlas was a Titan who was sentenced to carry the weight of the entire world on his shoulders. His name evokes both strength and suffering, in contrast to Callum, which suggests calmness and peace. Atlas is also associated with globes and maps.
Sometimes it's harder to name that second (or third, or fourth) baby. When we make such a big decision, parameters or restrictions can be helpful, since they narrow down our options. But as you've seen, they also lock us out of some our favorites. If your firstborn is Abraham, you probably can’t use Lincoln for your second, no matter how much you love it. Ditto for Sara and Clara or Jack and Jill.
A few years back, I offered some thoughts on too-close-for-comfort names: "Are other people likely to get the two names mixed up? If you holler upstairs to one child, will your kids be able to tell who you're asking for? Does it feel like you gave each child a distinct identity?" In that same post, I advised against rhyming names, which puts Ollie right out of the running for your family. Oliver, though, is trickier.
-- Momma 2 5
You're facing a sad irony of baby naming. It's the parents who put in the most effort -- spending months agonizing over the name, determined that their choice be "just perfect" -- who [LINK]face the greatest chance of regrets. The process ends up numbing your gut feelings about what you love, while raising your expectations to unreachable levels.
The good news is that you've chosen a fine name. If you keep it you'll almost surely find that your daughter grows into it, and you'll end up loving it as part of her.