"Outlandish"? It's hard to imagine such a strong word applied to a short, familiar, fashionable name like Lila. No it's not traditionally associated with Elizabeth. And no, the letter string L-I-L-A doesn't actually appear in the name Elizabeth. But who says those are requirements?

I believe parents often worry too much about initials. As it happens, though, a PIG monogram was the very example I once offered of initials that are worth worrying about. When a child's initials form a full word that is recognized and taken as an insult starting in preschool, it’s asking for trouble. Ask your husband to imagine bearing the initials PIG himself—as a six-year-old. Perhaps a pudgy six-year-old?

Assuming your son is not heir to a royal throne, his name will not be Charles Albert III but simply Charles Albert. Unlike monarchs, we common folk don't keep historical score with suffixes. We use them solely in the case of unbroken lines of namesakes, father to son.

Names are our public representatives to the world. They speak of our families’ dreams and expectations, of our traditions and heritage, of our age and gender and even geographical location. They’re beautiful, and powerful -- powerful enough that, in the wrong hands, they can do real harm.

Your heart is in the right place: you want to do right by both your grandfather and your new daughter. But your effort is making a straightforward homage more complicated than it has to be. If you want a middle name that will honor Grandpa James, look good with the first name Jacquelynn, and be spelled and pronounced correctly, the answer is simple: James.

I'll be glad to give you my opinion, but I feel that I should stamp it with a disclaimer:

No Name Lady opinion, regardless how learned and wise, will change the fact that your friends and family think your favorite baby name is a disaster.

You've packed a lot of thoughts and dreams into "Romance Delilah." Those two little words are a deeply personal reflection of you, and the rejection they met with must sting. It's a dangerous business, letting a beloved name out into the wild.

Good heavens, our most cherished baby names are under assault from all sides! As if it weren't bad enough dealing with friends and relatives who "steal" the names for their own babies, and neighbors who bestow them on their pets, now even our cars are getting into the act. Is no name safe?

I think your own first sentence contains the answer to your question. You named your first two children after people, not letters of the alphabet. So that’s the pattern that should take precedence.