You're not alone in this. Many girls your age and a little older question the names they were given at birth. As you explore your identity, your little-girl name feels like it just doesn't fit. This is a positive move—it's all part of growing up!
I'm glad it's the spelling that bothers you, and not the nickname itself. "Don't call your adorable granddaughter by a pet name" is a tough sell, and one that's kinder not to fight if you can avoid it. (Although you'd be well within your rights to speak up, loudly and often, if your mother-in-law mangled the pronunciation of your daughter’s name, or flat-out insulted your choice).
–A Before E?
Good news: They're both right. Like Catherine and Kathryn, this is a name with multiple accepted spellings. The "a" version is more commonly used—about twice as often—but both spellings rank in the top 150, which means both will be accepted easily.
The question here isn't what spelling is correct, but how you choose which one is right for you. In a case like Catherine vs. Kathryn or Geoffrey vs. Jeffrey, you might choose based on first initial. Maybe one makes for a better monogram than the other, or repeats (or avoids repeating) a sibling's initial.
I've thought carefully about what I love about those names and it's the image of a fun and feisty little girl. I found two other names I love that I feel share a similar vibe but are less popular: Pepper and Cricket. In other words, I've discovered that what I love are peppy nicknames. I don't want to saddle my daughter with a nickname that might not translate to adulthood on her birth certificate but I can't find any real names that I like as much, much less names that match the nicknames I like!
There are a ton of names that are pretty and all, but I can't work up any enthusiasm for them because they aren't really my style. Please help!
–Looking for Spunk
I love the way you've thought this through. You get a gold star from the Name Lady for zeroing in on the name style that's right for you (which isn’t always easy!) and considering your daughter’s lifelong needs as well.
The problem you're having—you can’t muster much excitement over options other than Pepper or Cricket—is easily explained. Those non-nickname options just don't float your boat because they aren’t nicknames!
I love Frida Kahlo for many reasons, but her gift for being completely unapologetic is what I love most. My daughter will be half Mexican, so I love that this name belongs to one of the most amazing women in history who also happens to be of Mexican descent. The issue is that the names don't follow the syllable rule—which isn't that huge of a deal, but also that all three names end in the "O" sound. I did consider using "Frida" instead of Kahlo, but I just love Kahlo as a name/statement much more.
Let's dispense with the syllable rule first. There's nothing inherently wrong with a 2-2-2 syllable pattern! It's the specific combination of sounds and rhythms that matters. So a name like Anna Marie Kepler sounds perfectly natural. Even a repeated stress pattern, like Anna Morgan Taylor, works fine because the sounds don't repeat or trip the tongue. But Anna Emma Lima is too much of the same.
I can see why you're convinced that this is an established name, even when you haven't found any evidence for it. It has a familiar, fashionable sound, thanks to list-toppers and up-and-comers like Silas, Cyrus, Skyler, and Tyler, or even the Spanish name Pilar (pronounced pee-LAR and used for girls).
Will it work? That depends on what you're trying to achieve. If you simply like the ends-with-I spelling, then using it works for you—no problem.
–Once Upon a Dream
Trusting dream logic to choose your baby's name may sound kooky, but your husband is in good company. Many religious traditions treat dreams as moments of divine inspiration. Psychologists like Freud and Jung claimed our dreams are a direct line to the subconscious. And as every fairy-tale aficionado knows, dreams can also manifest as prophecies, predicting black or golden hair, sorrow or joy, and powerful or important destinies.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I understand your impulse to want to honor your first son, but this isn't the way to do it. Will people judge? Well, yes. Think of it this way. If you met a boy named Elvis, could you imagine that his parents never even considered Elvis Presley when choosing the name? That would be preposterous. So you can't expect people not to think that the name Adolf references Adolf Hitler. Your child will spend his life refuting rumors that he’s a neo-Nazi—or that you are.
–No Hippies Here
This true-blue name does ring a little bit boy, with its –o ending, and a little bit hippie, with its origin in the worlds of color and nature. And yet Indigo has been considered an option for girls ever since the Indigo Girls hit the music scene in the 1990s. The only celebrity baby Indigo in our database is a girl (the daughter of actor Lou Diamond Phillips, born in 2007).