Have I Missed My Chance at a Middle Name?
- Regretful Mom
Of course you can still give your daughter a middle name. In fact, as naming "mistakes" go, this has to be one of the easiest possible to fix.
I can understand why you might feel that the die is cast on your baby name choice. You faced a deadline, submitted paperwork, and received a birth certificate. The name is now official. Yet you know that official names can be changed. For instance, I'm sure you know plenty of people who have changed their surnames because of a family status change, like marriage or adoption.
Most of us are more hesitant to tamper with first names. First name changes are less usual and require a lot more explanation. Some parents also worry that changing their kids' names will mess with their sense of identity -- even when the child is an infant who's just as often called "Baby" or "Captain Cutiepants." But you shouldn't have to worry about that. You're not changing what you call your daughter, just adding an element that will stay in the background.
Check with the local official who registers births in your city or town to find out the procedure for adding a middle name. It might be quick and easy, or it might involve a modest hassle and expense. But I'll take a bit of short-term hassle over a lifetime of regrets any day. If only all of our parenting missteps could be erased with such a simple do-over!