Help Me Change My Name!
I don’t know what middle name to use with Jessimine. I've also considered Juliet as a first name. I want to stick to a J name. I know that I am young to be making this decision on my own, so I need another opinion. Should I change my name, and what should my new name be?
- Just Jessie
You sound like a wise young lady and, after much time and consideration, you've come up with a very reasonable plan. Better yet, your parents are on board too. That is lovely; many would-be name-changers don't enjoy that kind of support. So I think you should go for it.
Jessamine is a traditional variant of Jasmine, so it's a happy combination of your two current given names. But you may notice that I used a slightly different spelling than you suggested. Since the name is already likely to be unfamiliar to many, my inclination would be to go with Jessamine, which is the standard botanical spelling. It's one less element of your name change to have to explain. This spelling still works as a combination of “Jess” from your first name and “min” from your middle.
Jessamine allows for a gradual transition and may be easier for others to remember and use. And, of course, you could continue to use the nickname Jessie, while taking more control over it. You would have an answer at the ready for those who assume you're a Jessica: "Actually, my full name is Jessamine, like the flower."
For the middle name, Juliet is a lovely choice (and lets you maintain your original monogram). You could also consider an honor name, like one of your mother's or grandmothers names. Or how about asking your parents what they think? They may have a fresh suggestion that they'd like to contribute. It might be a name they loved the first time around, but didn't get to use, or something they've encountered in the last 14 years since they named you. This is a fun opportunity, for all of you, to choose all over again.