I Resent My Name!
Do you think I should just come up with a nickname to have people call me, or should I change my name altogether? I have considered legally changing it numerous times, but always reconsider when I think of the hassle it would be to have to go through the process. I just feel like I have some sort of identity issue or something, because I have tried experimenting with different names, and don't even feel attached to the name 'Brooke' anymore.
- Not a Brooke
Whether you make a legal change or just a usage change, I believe it's definitely time to do away with Brooke. I say that not because there's anything wrong with the name Brooke -- there isn't -- but because you're twisting yourself in knots to prove that there is.
You say it's a bad name because it's hard to pronounce? That's a little tough to swallow, since the name has a single, unambiguous pronunciation that it shares with a common word.
It's a bad name because somebody once stretched it and mangled it to come up with a rude nickname? Honey, you can do that with any name. Brooke is actually less prone to teasing nicknames than most...and even boys named Tucker survive just fine.
Here's why Brooke is really a bad name for you: because you don't like it. It just doesn't fit.
That is a completely legitimate reason, so please give yourself permission to feel the way you feel. Reaching for "objective" reasons why Brooke is a crummy name only encourages people to argue with you, trying to defend the innocent name against trumped-up charges. Stick with a simple "the name has never fit me," let your parents off the hook, and turn to the job of finding a new name.
Right now, you're still focused on the name you want to change from, not the name you want to change to. Asking whether you should make it legal at this point is like asking whether you should date, shack up or get married before you even find a partner. (And getting married to force yourself to commit to a partner you aren't crazy about is always a mistake.) Find a name that truly makes you happy, live with a little while, and you might just find that the hassle of tying the knot will seem worth it.